Adriana
Vicario
iExamen
2
14
March 2013
This past Monday I began my iExamen
assignment of consciously being kind, useful, and true with my words.
Committing to this obligation had changed the way I communicated and interacted
with others. It was a rewarding feeling to have completed this task because the
feedback I received throughout the day was extremely satisfactory.
Daily phone calls with my mom usually
start and end with the same dialogue. It initiates with my mom incessantly
asking me how my day was, if I had a lot of work, or if I was eating regularly.
Normally I would respond with curt answers due to my eagerness to end the phone
call. I never thought about how really engaging in conversation for at least
two more minutes could certainly brighten up her day. This past phone call I
decided to speak what I felt was kind, useful, and true. I began to ask my mom
how her day was and let her know that I do at times miss her when I am away at
school. I even suggested writing letters weekly to let one another know what
new things are happening in our lives. I felt a stronger connection to my
mother because of this and believe that if I choose to continue this positive
form of expression I could certainly better other relationships in my life.
I have noticed for a few weeks that my
suitemate has not been the normal cheerful self she always is. Typically I will
give her the space she needs to allow her to recover from whatever it is that
is bothering her. Presented with this iExamen activity I thought it would be an
opportune moment to try and examine what it was that was so troublesome in her
life. To the best that I could I offered to listen to what she had to say and
support her in her troubled time. I thought it was wise to give her honest
advice of how I would go about addressing her situation. It was a satisfying feeling
to know that me being so helpful to her really made my suitemate happy. Her problem
was not resolved in that moment but she told me how much she appreciated my
concern and useful advice.
I did not realize what great of an impact
these simple doings can have on other people. I valued the kind, truthful, and
useful person I was because it showed me what a positive enforcement I can be
in another person’s life. I will definitely strive to continue this task in
using these gestures when approaching others.
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