iExamen 2
Mitch Washburn
I
like to view myself as an individual who is not transparent in their emotions.
What you see is what you get. I am not afraid to speak my mind and so I thought
I would be able to breeze my way through this project with no challenges. On
second thought, when I go about speaking my mind, I can say some pretty harsh
things… maybe this assignment was going to be tougher than I thought. I
remember explaining the task to my father on the car ride home for spring
break. He had an interesting opinion. “Mitch,” he said to me, “that shouldn’t
be a problem for you, cause that is what your old Dad does everyday!” HA,
thought I. However, Dad got me thinking as to how often we throw out little
white lies to make conversations flow. I had seen my father caught in the act
of joking with me and I have caught him mid-fallacy beforehand. I decided the
following day to be my day of observation.
I
slept in again. My parents were at work and my sister was at school. Great. How
was I supposed to practice kind, useful and true communication with dog as my
only company? Post-shower, my phone buzzes and it’s my neighbor, Mrs. Schargel,
who’s family we have been best friends with since the day we moved into the
neighborhood. She was having the carpets cleaned and was home alone. She said
the men doing the job might try to take advantage of her lack of carpet pricing
and so she wanted me to accompany her to show she wasn’t vulnerable. How could
I refuse? I soon joined my neighbor in her kitchen and was advising her with my
“extensive knowledge of carpets” I was said to possess. Fortunately the men did
not confront me and so I spoke with Mrs. Schargel about school. I was forced to
state what was happening to me in was that shed positive light on true events. I
related the facts about my present rooming situation, clubs, and athletics and
then added my opinions in a constructive manner, which drew a positive response
from her. She said that she hopes her son Matthew makes the same good decisions
as I do when it comes to living at college and away from my family. This simple
compliment felt so much deeper for me because I knew that I had earned it
through genuine oration of my college adventures. I had told the whole truth
and nothing but the truth and it felt good.
After
picking up my sister, Kelsey, from school and rocking out to our favorite songs
on the way home I inquired as to how she spent her day. She told me about her
classes and how her circle of friends was all deciding which colleges to attend
the following year. She has applied to the same Loyola that I attend and she
asked me how I would feel if she joined me here next year. Now this was the
most difficult point of the day. Normally I would have shrugged off the
question saying, “You should choose the school that is right for you.” However,
today was different. I told her that I would love if she joined me but I really
enjoyed my independence from the family. I told her that we have a lot of the
same interests and that is good and all but I was going to see her 5 nights a
week because we are going to be singing in the same choirs. I didn’t want
college to continue the relationship we had in high school by hanging with the
same crowds and being together all the time. When I had concluded my speech,
she seemed a bit surprised but told me that I was absolutely right and Loyola
is still high on her list. We hugged it out and the day continued.
Upon
completing my observations for the day, I have gained a real insight to how I
communicate. I feel now I am more aware of what I am speaking and I have an
appreciation for people who speak the truth on a regular basis in a way that is
kind and just. This project has changed the way I view others and the world.
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