Going into this iExamen I thought
it was going to be a very simple task and I did not think I was going to make
any big observations about my ways of communicating during the length of the
day. I have always seen myself as a very kind person and for the most part I
try to be kind to everyone, even strangers. What made me realize how
challenging this iExamen was going to be was the situation I am going through
in my life at the moment. I was lucky, or unlucky, depending which way you look
at it to be going through some tough times with friends at the time that I did
my iExamen and because of this I definitely saw how my communication differed
compared to a normal day.
Recently, in my group of friends
from home, we had an incident that has affected all of us greatly. It has
become a big mess and now certain people are mad at others and I personally do
not know where I stand with one of my best friends. Usually we are inseparable
and even being at different colleges we would still talk everyday but now
things have changed. The anger I had towards her had changed the way I
communicated with her. For the past few days we had been saying some nasty
things towards each other. Thankfully, I had the iExamen! For this day I made
sure I said only things that would actually help our friendship and not hinder
it. I had to put my anger aside and remember that she has been my best friend
for twelve years and I needed to do what I can to fix our problems. It was
tough because I was still upset and of course when you’re mad the first thing
that comes to mind isn’t saying what is kind, useful, and true, for the most
part it is usually the exact opposite. Fortunately, I was able to make it
through the day and it actually helped us resolve many of our issues!
Aside from the change in
communication to my best friend, I noticed that for the most part I did not
have to change much about how I communicated with others. I have always figured
that if I was kind to others, they would do the same in return. Something I did
notice though, was how much “please” and “thank you” are used around the Loyola
campus. Since beginning here in September I’ve realized that everyone always
holds the door for others and in general everyone seems to be very kind to strangers.
It almost seems as though once you become a student here, being kind to others
around campus is like an instinct. I never once had to think twice about saying
“please” or “thank you” to anyone and that just goes to show how welcoming our
community here at Loyola is.
At the end of the day I was very
happy I did this iExamen, not only did I realize something about the school as
whole, but I was also able to fix the conflict I was in before the iExamen. I
would recommend this iExamen to anyone who is having problems with another
person! It was very useful and you can learn a lot about yourself and those surrounding
you.
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