Natalya Pulaski
March 12, 2013
EN 101.17
IExamen 2
Going
into the second IExamen I had limited expectations as to what the experience
would be like. The focus of this IExamen
was being aware of how kind, true and useful your words were to others. In comparison to the first IExamen,
throughout the the experience I reflected on what it means to have kind, true
and useful words. I think it’s often
hard for people to address these three categories, because often people might
not think about the consequences behind their words or how important their tone
can be.
Throughout
my day I felt assured that my actions were kind to others because of my nature. Going into the experience, I already knew
that as a person I always try to be genuine to others. The kindness aspect of the IExamen did not
seem to be the trouble for me.
Interestingly, what I found to be one of the biggest struggles during
the day was using useful words. Words,
especially tone and how we express our words, deeply impacts our friends,
family, teachers and all who we know and love.
I think it was hard to be put in a position to have to logically think
about each word and ensure that each one was useful to the people that you were
talking to. Before thinking about and
participating in this IExamen, I felt that I had little time to mentally think
about the usefulness of my own words to others.
However, through this experience I was able to more fully emerge myself
and come to realize the importance of usefulness of our language. Each time I had a conversation with one of my
friends or my professors I felt that my words were useful.
Additionally,
I felt that the truth aspect of the assignment was interesting to address. I
found that I had the intentions of saying everything true before talking to
people. However, because I am often a
sarcastic and humorous person, I felt that this sometimes stood in my way,
without even being fully being aware of it at first. Truth is something that is extremely
important to me in any relationship or friendship. I believe that truth can illustrate to others
how genuine you are as a person and also tests your ability to communicate in a
relationship. Throughout my day, I tried
to focus on how true my words were. The
times where I felt I was not being truthful tended to occur when I was trying
to be humorous or sarcastic. However,
what I noticed was each time I was sarcastic I always backed myself up and told
the person I was kidding, or they already new that I was a sarcastic person.
During
this experience I learned the importance of kindness, truthfulness and usefulness. Often it’s surprising to see how people react
to situations when they are told beforehand to not only focus on how to
communicate with others but test their abilities to be vulnerable to others. I believe in this generation people sometimes
stray from kindness, truth and usefulness because talking to someone has become
seemingly second nature to us. Often
times I think people are simply desensitized to certain situations and just say
what ever they are feeling. Often times,
people may not realize how their words will affect those around them. I
found that it was often easier to speak to those I felt I could speak the truth
to and not hold back. I think it is
important that both people in the conversation are truthful, kind and aware of
their usefulness. I have learned that
often one comment or way something says something can influence you in a strong
way.
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